How to be the main character at school
Being “popular” isn’t about cracking jokes nonstop, acing every test, or flexing your drip—it’s about being the energy everyone vibes with
The real MVPs1 at school know how to vibe in a way that makes everyone want to sit with them at lunch. Here’s what they’re doing right:
1. They vibe with everyone
Main characters don’t box themselves into one friend group—they keep it chill with all kinds of people. The key? They genuinely like others, which makes them instantly likable. Instead of sticking to their crew, they’ll casually throw out a “Hey, what’s up?” to anyone—even that quiet kid in the back. Those small moments stack up and create a reputation that’s anything but basic.
2. They’re not shy about being nice
Let’s normalize being nice, okay? Main characters know how to gas people up without coming off fake. Compliments like “That hoodie is fire—where’d you cop it?” hit differently, especially when you drop them casually or in front of a group. A quick smile, remembering someone’s fave snack, or a “You crushed that presentation!” can turn someone’s whole day around. Pro move: Do it like it’s no big deal.
3. They skip the cringe convos
Small talk? Overrated. Main characters keep things interesting by switching it up. Instead of the same old “What’s up?” or venting about how hard math class is, they bring real energy to convos. Try, “What’s the most random thing you’ve Googled this week?” or “I saw you nailed it in PE—what’s your secret?” People vibe with those who keep things fun and unpredictable.
4. They get that friendships come in levels
Not every friendship has to go deep, and that’s okay. Main characters know the balance: some friends are for casual laughs, others for sharing notes, and a select few for heart-to-hearts. They make time for all types of connections without wasting energy where it’s not needed. For example, they’ll talk Marvel theories with one person, share memes with another, and save their real talk for their ride-or-die. It’s all about keeping the squad versatile.
5. They’re empathetic
Being the main character isn’t just about being funny or interesting—it’s about feeling people. They can read the room, check in when someone’s off, and avoid roasting people (especially in front of others). Even a simple “You good?” when someone looks stressed can hit differently. It’s these little moments that show they care and make them someone people want to have around.
Pro Tip:
You don’t need to be the loudest or most outgoing person in the room to pull this off. Holding the door open, giving someone props for their art project, or just being chill and approachable is more than enough to make an impact over time.
Shoutout:
Big love to Vanessa Van Edwards and huge respect for Dale Carnegie for inspiring this post—absolute legends when it comes to understanding human vibes.
MVPs - People who are awesome, irreplaceable, or just killing it in what they do.